Is it possible to alleviate the challenges of middle age? Discover fresh perspectives and guidance in new books and a podcast.
This morning routine may sound familiar: waking up early, tending to family needs, and embracing the grind of everyday life. As we navigate the middle years, often dubbed the nadir of happiness, it’s easy to succumb to the weight of responsibilities and changing dynamics. Yet, in the midst of this, a new wave of literature and podcasts challenges the notion that middle age has to be a period of perpetual misery.
The U curve of happiness, as sociologists describe it, often finds individuals in their middle years grappling with the absence of youthful energy, burdened by job and family responsibilities, and eagerly awaiting the promised upswing of joy that supposedly accompanies old age. The narrative is one of sagging bodies, plateaued careers, and relationships that settle into a routine or, worse, falter.
However, a closer look at this phase of life reveals a more nuanced picture. Several new books and a podcast delve into the reasons behind the perceived misery of midlife, with a particular focus on women who face caregiving roles and unrealistic beauty standards. While acknowledging the challenges, these works also provide valuable advice on how to improve the midlife experience.
Two titles stand out for addressing the societal perceptions of middle-aged women. “Hags” by Victoria Smith explores how this cohort is often both ignored and vilified, while “Revolting Women” by Lucy Ryan shifts the focus to how professional women over 50 are fighting against a corporate system that undervalues them. Both books encourage women to stand up for themselves and challenge ill-informed views about how they should navigate midlife.
In the podcast realm, “Wiser Than Me,” hosted by the always funny Julia Louis-Dreyfus, takes a lighter and more personal approach to similar themes. Julia raises the question, “Why don’t we hear more from older women?” and interviews famous, fabulous women about their experiences.
However, the discussion on midlife often overlooks one key aspect: men struggle with it too. Karen Walrond, in her book “Radiant Rebellion,” recounts her journey of approaching midlife with a commitment to fight against ageism. Like other advocates, she emphasizes the importance of connecting with oneself and a community, envisioning a future with purpose, and embracing growth and adventure.
Walrond’s metaphor of a kaleidoscope resonates deeply. Aging, she suggests, is like a kaleidoscope—experimenting with adjustments, expecting new revelations of a beautiful image. In essence, middle age can be a time of evolution rather than impending decline.
In conclusion, as we explore the middle years, there is hope to be found in the wisdom shared by these authors and podcast hosts. Whether it’s embracing a radiant rebellion, envisioning a future with purpose, or viewing life as a kaleidoscope, the collective message is clear: middle age, with all its challenges, can still be a time of delight and meaningful growth. Perhaps, it’s not so bad after all.